The Allure Of The Bad Boy


T.I. said it best: The funny guy and the bad guy will never be single. 

While in the process of writing the sequel to Twisted, one self-proclaimed bad boy demanded to get my attention. So far, he’s been domineering, as opposed to my main man, AJ. This guy is spilling his guts, revealing his torrid history one word at a time. He’s explained how he turned into the person he has due to life events and how he desperately wants to change, but can’t seem to find a way to do so. Over the course of the story so far, he’s participated in some pretty nasty things. However, he’s hoping that an encounter with a certain good girl can help reform his bad boy ways. This scenario got me thinking; what is it about bad boys that is appealing?

Charlie Hunnam aka Jax Teller

Charlie Hunnam aka Jax Teller from Sons of Anarchy

It’s a storyline that is replayed ad nauseam in popular culture. Girl meets aloof, unobtainable bad boy. Over the course of the plot, girl falls for said bad guy and bad guy falls for said girl. At the end, bad guy and girl live happily ever after. Why? Why is that such a common and popular storyline? Perhaps rapper T.I. said it best; the funny guy and the bad guy will always have a girl. The funny guy is understandable. After all, who doesn’t like someone that makes them laugh? But why is the tough guy appealing?



There’s loads of info out there speculating about why girls like bad boys. Try a Google search and you’ll see tons of articles populate your screen. I stumbled upon this article in Psychology Today that attempts to explain this attraction. (By the way, the psychological breakdown is not only intriguing, but also paints a rather unflattering picture of bad boys at their psychological root. I suggest checking this small study out.) Without getting too bogged down in the scientific minutiae of the article, the researchers essentially concluded that there are two possible reasons women find bad boys attractive, both dealing with sexual reproduction:

1.) Women are responding to “male quality” meaning that they are selecting bad boys who demonstrate confidence, stubbornness, and “risk-taking” tendencies.

2.) Women like the way these bad boys “sell themselves” as opposed to their male counterparts.

Jax Teller

Jax Teller


Does this mean that the bad boy attraction boils down to the most basic, primal need of reproduction? Or, is it something more complex to it? I know one bad boy who is begging to differ with this study and its conclusions. He’s screaming at me from the pages of my manuscript now…

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6 thoughts on “The Allure Of The Bad Boy

  1. I think another allure of the bad boy is women like to think they can change a man. “Well, yeah he’s an asshole but that’s just because he hasn’t met me. He’ll be different with me!”. No, he just an asshole. As much as people say men love the chase, I think women love it too! So what you’ve called him 25 times to no avail, that one time he calls you back, you think you’ve sunk your hooks into him when in actuality he was probably bored. The more distant he is and the more he ignores you, the better! I personally don’t like bad boys because like Sweet Brown said, “Ain’t nobody got time for that!” Boy Bye!

    • Lol! Great comment Krob! That’s a valid observation about bad boys. I do agree with the chase aspect. I also think the bad boy image gets romanticized in pop culture mediums, which in turn spills out into society. Or, is it the other way around? Once again art imitating life or vice versa?

  2. Bad boys are looked to be the protector. Someone who will beat someone down for his woman and family. That’s sexy to me! Also I think a woman doesn’t want a weak man, someone they can run over.

    • Thanks for commenting Seteria! I think you also raise a valid point which relates to the theory of a woman’s innate need or desire for protection. (Please don’t rail me feminists, only stating that this theory does exist.)

    • I agree with Seteria.

      Sure, women can take care of themselves. It sure is nice to not have to all the time though. With a bad boy, you know no one’s going to mess with you and get away with it.

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